Q: Therapist is causing problems; or maybe not
Submitted By: Anonymous.Lion, 100 days, 23 hours, 42 minutes ago
Background: My gf had seen a therapist several years before we started dating. In the years since the therapist and my gf have become friends.
Situation: My gf suffers from pretty serious depression and so I strongly suggested she seek either a therapist or a shrink (with script writing ability) or both. She finally started antidepressants and started to feel better about her whole life - except me. She somehow transfered all of her previous depression to me. She asked if I was willing to go see her therapist frend and while hesitant to go initially, I finally conceeded. So she dumped me. She apologized the next day and we got back together. But since then she keeps talking about how we 'won't work out in the long run' and everytime she makes this prediction, she talks about how she came to this conclusion while talking to her therapist. Turns out that once she started feeling better, she started confiding in the therapist and not me. Now, whenever I hear the therapist's name is mentioned, my blood boils. Part of me wants to tell my gf and this therapist to stop talking. They're having the conversations that my gf and I should be having. Part of me just wants to say good riddance; I put up with hell for a year while my gf debated drugs, and now that she's healthier I'm the bad guy?
Any suggestions?
Situation: My gf suffers from pretty serious depression and so I strongly suggested she seek either a therapist or a shrink (with script writing ability) or both. She finally started antidepressants and started to feel better about her whole life - except me. She somehow transfered all of her previous depression to me. She asked if I was willing to go see her therapist frend and while hesitant to go initially, I finally conceeded. So she dumped me. She apologized the next day and we got back together. But since then she keeps talking about how we 'won't work out in the long run' and everytime she makes this prediction, she talks about how she came to this conclusion while talking to her therapist. Turns out that once she started feeling better, she started confiding in the therapist and not me. Now, whenever I hear the therapist's name is mentioned, my blood boils. Part of me wants to tell my gf and this therapist to stop talking. They're having the conversations that my gf and I should be having. Part of me just wants to say good riddance; I put up with hell for a year while my gf debated drugs, and now that she's healthier I'm the bad guy?
Any suggestions?
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very though situation...
Submitted By: Raptor235 ( 100 days, 11 hours, 52 minutes ago )
I've been in a similary situation, my ex gf was suffering from a lot of depression... we broke up in the end but not for these reasons... I think its best that she continues to see her doctor, you have to think about her life happyness over your relationship... I know it sucks but that's the truth...
She'll need her life figured out first before she can commit to something very long term... and although you were responsible for getting her to seek help she now has to focus 100% on getting better it must be a very hard struggle to do that... I would say stick with her as long as you can and if you love her then that might mean being there for her for years to come... these kind of problems will not go out of her life overnight it might take years or it might even be a lifetime struggle for her...
She'll need her life figured out first before she can commit to something very long term... and although you were responsible for getting her to seek help she now has to focus 100% on getting better it must be a very hard struggle to do that... I would say stick with her as long as you can and if you love her then that might mean being there for her for years to come... these kind of problems will not go out of her life overnight it might take years or it might even be a lifetime struggle for her...
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Two ways..
Submitted By: elcaminos ( 99 days, 22 hours, 35 minutes ago )
Either A: You love her enough that you'll stick it out no matter what, or B: It's not worth it so get rid of her. You need to decide which one it is, and not worry about how to change her to make you happy, because they don't change.